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Okay so....
the other day our 13 yr old. daughter comes home in tears because apparently a "friend" of hers got caught carrying (and supplying) cigarettes to fellow students and got called down to the office (Freshmen in High School).
I, being a 'conscientious parent', grabbed the phone and was going to call the school upon hearing that this child had threatened her with substantial bodily harm and that she should "watch [her] back" lest she and her "homegurls" catch her alone..
I put the phone DOWN, when she informed me that the Sherriff's rep at the school was aware of the threat and would keep an eye on her.... and that further 'office trips' for this gal would just "make it worse".
I remember having to otherwise defend myself to crap like this in high school. I ALSO remember a place on school property, outside, called "The Breezeway" where students age 16 and over could go and smoke cigarrettes AWAY FROM those who didn't smoke. Then again, the "legal smoking age" was not 18 such as it is NOW.
It annoys me to no end that children these days "get away with" so much. That the smallest "slap" on their bottom in disciplinary routine because they a) shoplifted b) told a parent to 'shut the f*** up' or something else which can be construed as blatant verbal abuse or disrespect c) physically hurt a borther or sister or d) did anything else that would indicate a 'spanking' was necessary, can emit a cry of "CHILD ABUSE!" from their lips..
which then begins a never ending cycle of Child Protective Services investigations and the heartache/headaches that come with it.
This gal's parents are obviously unaware of their daughter's crime. And yes it IS a crime, because it is illegal for a 14 yr old to posess and/or distribute cigarettes. She continues to harrass and threaten and spread rumors about our daughter.
It's is a never ending learning cycle I suppose. I, as a parent, can only do so much. With the knowledge I have, and the fact that some laws have changed since I was her age, the most I can do is guide her and reinforce her with strength by giving her advice pointing her in the direction of "the right things to do/say".
One of those things was when I picked up the phone, again, handed it to our daughter and asked her to call this deviant. I told her to ask this gal for HER parents to get on the phone.... so I could deal with it parent-to-parent by showing concern for MY daughters safety and welfare arising from the rantings and ravings of a 14 yr old girl with a Kool Menthol cloud over her head.
Needless to say, the phone was replaced in it's cradle un-dialed. And our daughter hasn't come home in tears anymore. The rumors and problems with this gal continue but I haven't heard word one about how she should "watch [her] back" anymore.
This errant child keeps spewing lies and rumors which further hurt our daughter by making her days about as even keeled as the Titanic.... but at least it's something our daughter can control to some extent. Because I have taught her from the day she entered Kindergarten (new faces; new friends; new 'enemies'...):
"Those who know you, know better than to believe the lies coming from others ABOUT you. Wasting time defending yourself to non-truths is about as fruitful and draining as attempting to grow corn on the bottom of the ocean".
Blessings and light,
~~~Angel
the other day our 13 yr old. daughter comes home in tears because apparently a "friend" of hers got caught carrying (and supplying) cigarettes to fellow students and got called down to the office (Freshmen in High School).
I, being a 'conscientious parent', grabbed the phone and was going to call the school upon hearing that this child had threatened her with substantial bodily harm and that she should "watch [her] back" lest she and her "homegurls" catch her alone..
I put the phone DOWN, when she informed me that the Sherriff's rep at the school was aware of the threat and would keep an eye on her.... and that further 'office trips' for this gal would just "make it worse".
I remember having to otherwise defend myself to crap like this in high school. I ALSO remember a place on school property, outside, called "The Breezeway" where students age 16 and over could go and smoke cigarrettes AWAY FROM those who didn't smoke. Then again, the "legal smoking age" was not 18 such as it is NOW.
It annoys me to no end that children these days "get away with" so much. That the smallest "slap" on their bottom in disciplinary routine because they a) shoplifted b) told a parent to 'shut the f*** up' or something else which can be construed as blatant verbal abuse or disrespect c) physically hurt a borther or sister or d) did anything else that would indicate a 'spanking' was necessary, can emit a cry of "CHILD ABUSE!" from their lips..
which then begins a never ending cycle of Child Protective Services investigations and the heartache/headaches that come with it.
This gal's parents are obviously unaware of their daughter's crime. And yes it IS a crime, because it is illegal for a 14 yr old to posess and/or distribute cigarettes. She continues to harrass and threaten and spread rumors about our daughter.
It's is a never ending learning cycle I suppose. I, as a parent, can only do so much. With the knowledge I have, and the fact that some laws have changed since I was her age, the most I can do is guide her and reinforce her with strength by giving her advice pointing her in the direction of "the right things to do/say".
One of those things was when I picked up the phone, again, handed it to our daughter and asked her to call this deviant. I told her to ask this gal for HER parents to get on the phone.... so I could deal with it parent-to-parent by showing concern for MY daughters safety and welfare arising from the rantings and ravings of a 14 yr old girl with a Kool Menthol cloud over her head.
Needless to say, the phone was replaced in it's cradle un-dialed. And our daughter hasn't come home in tears anymore. The rumors and problems with this gal continue but I haven't heard word one about how she should "watch [her] back" anymore.
This errant child keeps spewing lies and rumors which further hurt our daughter by making her days about as even keeled as the Titanic.... but at least it's something our daughter can control to some extent. Because I have taught her from the day she entered Kindergarten (new faces; new friends; new 'enemies'...):
"Those who know you, know better than to believe the lies coming from others ABOUT you. Wasting time defending yourself to non-truths is about as fruitful and draining as attempting to grow corn on the bottom of the ocean".
Blessings and light,
~~~Angel
posted by WwAngelwW @ 12:35 PM
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